Eleven Pigs for a Bride

Cools Nick Dirk, a Belgian engineer, has married Le Thi Kim Sieu of Vietnam’s Pacoh people. Their wedding in the mountainous A Lưới District lasted three days and was held according to the customs of the bride’s family. The groom brought the lavish gifts required by tradition: eleven pigs, ten chickens, a pair of goats, as well as dishes, mats, gongs, and money.
Sieu, 30, and Dirk, 35, met in March 2024 on a dating app. She was working at a tailor shop in the ancient town of Hoi An, having moved there after a failed attempt to open her own business. He, a chemical engineer from Antwerp, was in Vietnam for a friend’s wedding and a holiday. After a few days of messaging, Dirk and his friends visited her shop to have clothes made, and he was immediately captivated by how gently and patiently Sieu spoke with customers. He invited her to dinner that evening, and for the rest of the week they walked around the town together. Before leaving, Dirk confessed his feelings and asked her to travel north with him, but Sieu refused, as she felt no romantic attraction.
Dirk left but called and wrote to her every evening. A week later, he cut his trip short and returned to Hoi An. Sieu says that when she saw him with his luggage at the shop door, she felt a warmth toward him for the first time. For the next two weeks, he accompanied her everywhere and offered financial help, knowing of her difficulties, but she declined. Before his return to Belgium, Sieu promised to give him an answer in six months. Dirk called daily, learning about her childhood in a farming family in central Vietnam and telling her about his own as the youngest son in a family that once had a farm in Belgium. In October 2024, he flew to Vietnam again, and Sieu accepted his proposal.
They lived apart for two years before their wedding in early October. The bride’s family held all the Pacoh rites to inform their ancestors of the marriage and ask for their blessing of peace for the young couple. The number of Dirk’s offerings was surprising, but he was prepared to make them out of respect for his bride’s family’s culture. On the first day, the gifts were brought to Sieu’s home for the engagement ceremony. On the second, since the groom’s parents could not come from Belgium, the bride’s family rented a space that served as the groom’s home for the rite. The couple prayed at an altar and fed each other banh a quat, a sticky rice cake that signifies love for the Pacoh people. On the third day, the ceremony concluded at the bride’s home among relatives and neighbors.
The couple has not yet decided where to live: Sieu wants to be near her parents, while Dirk’s family lives in Europe. For now, they plan to live between the two countries.


